Host: Alex Cooper (@CallHerDaddy )
Key Takeaways
- Self-worth isn’t defined by external validation
- Toxic relationships often stem from low self-esteem
- Shame can control your life if left unchecked
- Public scrutiny doesn't define your identity
- Own your narrative
Podcast Notes
Therapy and Mental Health
- Therapy is everything. It changed my life. I wouldn’t be who I am without it.
- You don’t just mesh with the first therapist you meet. It’s like dating—you have to find the right one.
- Normalize asking people if they’re in therapy. Everyone should be working on themselves.
Shame
- Shame is the most powerful emotion. Everything in my life goes back to shame.
- It controlled me for so long, and I didn’t even realize it until I started therapy.
- You have to face things head-on, or they will eat you alive. I spent years pretending certain things didn’t happen.
Body Image
- I was overweight as a child, and it affected everything. Even after I lost weight, I still didn’t feel happy.
- I thought surgery would fix it. I had a breast lift and implants, but I still hated myself.
- It wasn’t until recently that I started to actually love myself, and that came from working on my mental health, not my appearance.
Relationships
- I was in some of the most toxic relationships because I didn’t think I deserved better.
- I used to overextend myself to make my partners happy because I thought that was all I was worth.
- Leaving those relationships was the hardest but best decision I ever made.
Public Scrutiny
- It was terrifying. I couldn’t even go to the grocery store without being scared.
- I faced death threats, rape threats, and was banned from my home country. I felt completely alone.
- People still judge me for things I did years ago, but I’m not that person anymore.
OnlyFans and Reclaiming Her Image
- I’m on OnlyFans now, but I don’t do nude content. I don’t feel like I need to.
- People are angry that I’m on OnlyFans but not posting nude. But I’m doing what feels right for me.
- It’s about being in control of my image and career, which I never had before.
Female Friendships
- Meeting Rachel was the first time I felt unconditional love in years.
- She rebuilt my trust in people. I was so isolated, and having a friend changed everything.
- Female friendships are so important. I wouldn’t be where I am without the support of women around me.
Society’s Judgment
- It hurts when women are scrutinized for interacting with me because of my past.
- We need to stop defining people by one chapter of their life. I’m more than what I did in my early twenties.
- I’ve been rejected from podcasts and brands because of who I used to be, and it hurts more when it comes from other women.
Moving Forward
- I’m in the best place I’ve ever been. I’ve built a life I’m proud of.
- Everything I went through made me grow up fast, but I wouldn’t change where I am now.
- I’m excited about what’s next and grateful for the support I’ve found along the way.
Courtesy: @callherdaddy
